2018 // Selfishness

Hello and happy belated new year!

Yes, I am back with a new post, on a freshly renovated blog! Although this post is later than expected I am going to go straight into things, which by the way should include monthly updates!

So, what’s been happening? Well it’s 2018 and I’m in my second term of my second year at university, stressful but exciting times. Anyway, something I wanted to focus on in the first post back was being selfish. However, this isn’t going go to be a negative blog post, it focuses more on self-love, self-acceptance and finding happiness. Living away from home, this is something I have had the time to do due to lower times of homesickness and moments of loneliness.

Sometimes it’s important to take a step back and think about what’s not working in your life and essentially isn’t making you happy. Which means doing a few things I believe:

Review and relieve yourself from stress.

Stress I think can be an uncover hit man. You could think “Oh yeah, I’ve got a good routine at the moment, I’m going to do this, then this, then this and same again tomorrow’ no.

This sort of cycle builds up and subconsciously you are pushing yourself to fulfil this routine daily without giving yourself chance to breathe. Give yourself a time to relax, prioritise things and think about what you can do at a later date. It’s too easy to burn yourself out.

Don’t make effort where it won’t be returned.

Relationships are a two-way street, there’s no way around that. Friends, family or partners there is an equal amount of effort on each behalf. 

However, this isn’t always the case. Sometimes you might feel it’s your responsibility to go that bit further when you think someone else isn’t but it comes to a point when you’re essentially working towards a dead end. This can be draining and it’s a waste of your energy for no reason. If your time and effort isn’t appreciated, then find somewhere, where it will be.

Accept the ‘grey cloud’ days.

A lot like the weather there will be good and bad days. The only thing that can makes this easier is accepting them.

I saw this on Twitter recently and couldn’t agree more, no matter what age 20+, 30+ or more, everything is okay in the end and as this blog says everything happens for a reason. What might feel like the crushing end of the world to which there is no solution, you’re wrong. Of course, this is obvious, but it’s remembering it which is the difficult bit.

Don’t bottle it up.

Easy to say hard to do? Yes. Beneficial in the long run? 100%. This is pretty self-explanatory so I’m not going to go crazy on this one, but even when you think you have no one, you’ll have someone that wants to listen and help.

Living away from home and the people you’re most comfortable with can be difficult, but having a positive mind can help you through it more than you know. This doesn’t just benefit you either, people around you will notice. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first when you need it, the time you take to work and improve yourself is well spent and when you look back on it, you’ll feel like a fresh version of yourself.

Don’t be too hard on yourself, life your best life.

Until next time,

Shannon xx