Hello!
I return with a slightly more sentimental blog for
you all today purely because I believe today’s excessive use of technology can
be seen in a slightly corruptive way in terms of our lives and most importantly
friendships. I believe the value of
friendship can be so subtle it is almost forgotten, and whilst everyone has
their own definitions as to what makes a friendship, there are pretty basic
structures everyone has to follow.
It is common knowledge that us, as human beings, have the
innate nature to want to be liked and want to have friends. It is also common
knowledge that everyone will cross paths with someone they consider an enemy.
As I said before friendships can differ with everyone which makes the points I
write invalid in a way as they are a personal preference of some sort, I do
however believe I have understood the ins and outs of a good friendship as well
as the ups and downs fairly well.
As an upper sixth student I have had many experiences
enabling me to create new bonds as well as diminish previous ones. This is
normal. Of course the key to friendship is finding similarities and finding
that spark between you, similar to a loving relationship. I believe a good
friendship can be formed though humour and establishing the likes and dislikes
of each other, people say the easiest thing to become friends is finding
something you both hate…or love. I believe there are certain do’s and don’ts to
keeping a friendship alive, especially when times get tougher and you might
start to drift…be aware young ones, this does and will happen!
You might find a group of friends on your first day of year
7 or your 50th history lesson, and they may become the people you
glue yourself to through thick and thin. High school friendships often occur
like this and they are usually great…until you reach a certain age, hormones
fly everywhere and you can’t stand each other for a year. Again this will probably happen. I know from
previous experience that even if you don’t see someone for months on end, if
you really were there for each other and were the best of friends, nothing will
change between you except for maybe a new haircut.
Growing up, I think that communication becomes very apparent
in keeping a friendship alight and in today’s society it is easier than ever to
speak to someone. A text message takes
up to a minute to write and a second to send, so there is never the excuse of
not being able to reach someone, even if times are tough you can email…or
really tough, then write them a letter. All in all it is impossible to not
communicate with someone and then wonder why things are changing. In a similar
way, a common belief now is that it should be specifically down to one person
to contact the other. Whilst it shouldn’t be down to this, if someone hasn’t
spoken to you in a while, it doesn’t kill you to send the message, it might
make their day that you made the effort.
Friendship is not a two way road, it is a one way road traveled by two people together, hand in hand.
Better yet, avoid texting! Whilst this might not be the
issue for 98% of our population, there are easy misunderstandings made in
texting, even if you do use 20 emojis in one sentence, you can’t really see or
hear how the other person is talking to you. Some people might generally be
blunt texters who can give off the wrong impression, or some may be over
enthusiastic. Either way I believe that this technological form of
communication can be an easy way to corrupt friendships in today’s world.
All of this can be sorted if we got a grip of ourselves,
sent the first message without a care in the world and cared less about what
emoji to use and instead wondered what people are up to. Friendship is
something to be cherished and I believe that it is sometimes taken for granted.
Of course there will be disagreements and arguments but that’s what makes a
friendship, it’s not all green grass and sunshine.
I’m ending this blog today with a miniscule task for those
that have read it. Did you relate to the point raised? If so, I guess it’s about
time you sent one of those 1 second texts? Go on, you know you want to!
Thanks for reading,
Until next time,
Shannon xx
